Will you still need me, feed me ... When I'm sixty four?

   “Will you still need me, will you still feed me…  When I’m sixty four?” wrote Paul McCartney in his song. This stands so true to the whole ageing paradigm. Once when your parents grow older, will you still need them, feed them and love them? It’s something to reflect upon. Right now we are living with them, we need them to cover for our basic needs, we love them for all they do for us, but when the time comes are you ready to return the favors not as a job but because you really want to? Will you give them the opportunity to “Age with dignity”?

   Ageing is a crucial transition in our lives, it’s when we need somebody the most, but, the passive and dependent way of life forces you to live at the mercy of others, be the circumstances good or bad. In such a situation the best thing is to be independent in a way which empowers you to realize your potential, be inspired and inspire others. . . Time are changing, if you’re not getting the respect the love and the comfort you deserve from your own family then so be it, let this give you a chance to move in with your peers and empower yourselves with courage and hope to take those first concrete steps to change the existing paradigm.  After the struggle of many years a person is well aware of what they can do, what they want to do and what they have done. They may not always be in the same line, but this empowerment can help them get all the above in sync. Ageing doesn’t have to be all sad and dark instead it should be an opportunity when you can re-discover yourself! After all, the desire for happiness lies at the very heart of our interconnection. In the end we all chose to be happy, have respect and be loved – what’s wrong in getting this support from your peers , so you can motivate each other to strive and do everything you have missed out on before. You, we, everybody deserves to grow old with grace and beauty! Let the times when the old sat in the corner wondering “where did the time fly away?” be gone, let ageing be the best thing that could ever happen to you. Give back to the society, be healthy, laugh, but, don’t let somebody hold you down. Don’t let somebody look down upon you. You’re a human, and you deserve your respect, you deserve to choose to live the culminating years of your life the way you wish to.

So finally, if they aren’t ready to feed you and say they don’t need you, now that you are sixty four, just don’t give in. Give yourself the chance to live with your head held high and hold no regrets, after all it’s not wrong in wanting to “age with dignity”…